Marriage Counsel

30 RULES FOR RESPONSIBLE HUSBAND & 30 RULES FOR GOOD WIFE......
1. Don’t ever beat your wife for any
reason. Prov. 19:11, Prov. 20:3
2. Don’t ever forget that your wife is
your greatest asset. Prov. 12:4, Prov.
18:22
3. Don’t ever forget to check the level
of peace of your wife. Prov. 27:17
4. Don’t associate with men that lack
credibility and generational mindset.
Prov.13:20
5. Don’t ever hurt your wife no matter
the level of insults passed on you. Col.
3:19, 1Pet. 2:19-20
6. Don’t ever wave off the ideas, advice or suggestions of your wife because of
your selfish interest. Pro. 1:5, Pro.
19:20
7. Never treat your wife as a servant.
Eph. 5:29
8. Never make your wife a negative
case study before friends and family.
Prov. 5:18, Prov. 21:23
9. Never doubt your wife no matter
what you know about her past. 1Cor.
13:5.
10. Don’t deny your wife of sex. 1Cor.
7:4-5.
11. Don’t be careless about the welfare
of your home. 1Tim. 5:8
12. Don’t compare your wife with
anyone. 2Cor. 10:12
13. Never cheat on your wife no matter
the condition. Prov. 6:32, Prov. 5:20
14. Never cut short the love you
showed to your wife, rather, water it, and nurture it for effective continuous growing. Eph. 5:28-29
15. Never disregard the effort of your
wife, rather appreciate her more and
more. Prov. 31:28b
16. Never discuss the weak points of
your wife at public opinion polls. Prov. 5:17
17. Don’t call your wife unpleasant
names such as prostitute, witch, fruitless entity, harlot, useless wife,
bastard, rather call her blessed,
precious, capable, beautiful and
virtuous woman. Col. 4:6, Prov. 31:28-29
18. NEVER EVER PLACE YOUR
FRIENDS, FAMILY OR WORK ABOVE
YOUR WIFE.
19. Don’t be self centered. Eph. 5:28,
Phil. 2:3-4
20. Don’t ever cook up plans against
your wife because of your lustful
desires.
21. Never set up a family without
having a family vision. Prov. 29:18, Hab. 2:2-3
22. Never make your wife feel inferior
and uneducated before your friends, family, anyone or even you the husband.
23. Never compare your wife’s attitude
with your one time girlfriend’s attitude.
2Cor.10:12
24. Don’t be lazy to cater for your wife
and family. 1Tim. 5:8
25. Never allow money to be the bond
of love in your marriage. 1Tim. 6:10
26. Never allow your parents or family
members to dictate the affairs of your home, remember, ‘’therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife………’’. Gen. 2:23-24.
27. Don’t ever let your children come
between you and your wife. You
married your wife not your children,
remember they have their life to live and when married and gone, only your wife will still be with you, to cook for you, comfort you, refresh your body, soul and spirit in the bedroom. Matt. 19:6
28. Never hide any phone calls, text
messages, or password to mailbox
from your wife. Transparency is the ultimate key to continuous trust and confidence in marriage. Rom. 12:9-10
29. Never owe your wife anything,
always give her the very best; best in
love, best care, most precious things
and that which belongs to her. Rom.13:8
30. Never show a heart of ungratefulness to God and your precious wife, always and always be ever grateful for their presence in your life. Prov. 31:228b.
30 RULES FOR GOOD WIFE
1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)
2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. You are each other's keeper.(Eph 5v12)
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them.(Prov 15v13)
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about.
5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. (Gen 2v24)
7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)
8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)
9). Never be a wasting wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex (SS 7v12
11). Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom.(SS 5v9)
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children(Eph 4v31)
14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam 25v3)
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word.(Luke 21v16)
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. (Gal 6v9)
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork. (Gal 6v10)
21). Don't be too judgemental to your husband.(Eph 4v29)
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)
23). Does your husband like less cooked food?, try to change your cooking.(Prov 31v14)
24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)
25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)
26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)
28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)
29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)
30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17)
GOD WILL HELP US TO BE A GOOD HELP MEET 2 EACH OTHER IN JESUS NAME

Warning for Youths

PREGNANT BRIDES.
Hello sisters, its being a while but can we talk?
Yes, I mean now!
Marriage is a good thing.
Wedding is nice too.
But when the bride's pregnant,
When she walks down the aisle
bearing a protuding belly,
The marriage has being dishonoured.
And the bed? Defiled!
Then, its no longer 'joining in holy matrimony'
It is called Thanksgiving celebration because the
couple has already joined themselves.
This is the common trend these days,
I dont admire nor applaude it.
Be the wife before you become a mother.
If your pastor didnt tell you, hear this now,
Introduction is not wedding...
Engagement is not wedding...
Dating and courtship aint wedding.
'Will you marry me?' 'I will', is not wedding.
'His papa and mama already know me' is not
wedding.
Your fiance/fiancee is not your wife or husband.
You dont own his or her body and cant demand
for it!
Marriage is the ONLY license to have sex.......
Make the marriage bed before you
make babies.
Stop forcing yourself on a guy by proposing to
him by getting pregnant.
Girlfriend, you are not suya, so no tasting!
You hear me so?
He wants to know if you are good in bed, You
are not a store sample..... Tell Him that.
He wants to know if you are fertile, You are not
a lab rat.
You come with a price, dont you?
Some items comes with nice packaging, and
Until their price is paid, you cant open to see
what's in it.
A man who pressurizes you for sex because your
wedding is days away will ruin your relationship
with God.
He's not worthy of you.
And finally, when sin blinds your eyes,
You claim Love is blind the same way you
accuse the devil for actrocities commited.
God already set His standards.
He is not negotiating with you.
# FleeFornication.
God will not ask you to fornicate or defile His
temple,
Beware of fake prophecies.
I have heard stories of ladies who recieved such
prophecies,
'be pregnant before wedding'.
Watch it!
God cannot contradict Himself.
His Rhema cant oppose His Logos.
GET GOD FOR YOURSELF.
Those who know their God shall be strong and
do exploits.
Those who do not know their God shall be weak
and exploited.
The Anthem of hell is "EVERYONE IS DOING IT".
Sweetheart, not everyone is heading to hell.
DO YOU KNOW YOUR GOD?......send 2 at least 4 groups  to
bless and save a soul!

Naija History

Do you know that?

1. The River Niger Bridge at Onitsha was constructed between 1964 and 1965 by Dumez- a French construction company and cost £5 million.

2. Patience Jonathan is one of Nigeria’s most-educated First Ladies, with an NCE, a B.Ed, and a PhD from University of Port-Harcourt.

3. The highest peak in Nigeria is located in Taraba and is called Chappal Waddi which means “The Mountain of Death”.

4. There are 196 countries in the world and at least one Igbo person from Nigeria lives in every one of them.

5. The Pidgin word ‘Sabi’ came from ‘Saber’, Portuguese and Spanish for ‘to know’. Both country’s ships traded slaves from the Bight of Benin.

6. Katsina College (now Barewa College in Zaria) has produced 5 Nigerian Presidents/Heads of State since it was founded in 1921 in Katsina.

7. Ojukwu taught Murtala Mohammed and Ben Adekunle at Regular Officers Special Training School, Ghana. Both ‘fought’ their teacher during the civil war

8. At Nigeria’s independence in 1960, there were 41 Secondary Schools in the North and 842 Secondary Schools in the South.

9. In 1983, Senator Arthur Nzeribe spent $16.5 million to win a Senatorial seat in Orlu (in Imo State).

10. In 1973, the Federal Government of Nigeria considered officially changing the name of “Lagos” to “Eko”. Regarding “Lagos” as a colonial name.

11. The geographical area now referred to as Nigeria was once referred to as ‘Soudan’ and ‘Nigiritia’.

12. Offences punishable by death sentence after the 1966 coup included embezzlement, rape and homosexuality.

13. MKO Abiola was named Kashimawo (Let us wait and see) by his parents. He was his father’s twenty-third child, but the first to survive infancy.

14. Jaja Wachucku was the first person to refer to Lagos as a “no-man’s land” in 1947, provoking a national controversy.

15. Jollof rice, chicken breast, serve of ice cream, tea, coffee or Bournvita, with full cream milk and sugar: Meal Cost = 50Kobo- Unilag in the late 1970s

16. At the point death in 1989, Sam Okwaraji was a PhD candidate and qualified lawyer with an LL.M in International Law (University of Rome)

17. When British Bank of West Africa (now First Bank) opened a branch in Kano in 1929, Alhassan Dantata (Dangote’s Grandfather) opened an account depositing 20 camel-loads of silver coins.

18. Jaja Wachuku is reputed to have owned the biggest one-man library in West Africa. Balewa sometimes referred to him as “Most Bookish Minister

19. The colonization of Nigeria took more than 40 years to achieve and the territories were integrated by the use of force.

20. Yoruba is spoken as a ritual language the Santeria cult in Carribean and South-Central America.

21. Slavery existed in the Nigerian territory before the 15th century and was abolished in the 19th century- 1807 by the British.

22. At least 55 women were killed in South-East Nigeria, in 1929 when the women forced the Umuahia warrant chiefs to submit to their rule.

23. The coinage ‘Supreme Court’ was first used in 1863 by the colonial administration through the enactment of the Supreme Court Ordinance No. II.

24. MKO Abiola died suddenly on July 7, 1998, exactly one month after General Sani Abacha died mysteriously on June 8, 1998.

25. Agbani Darego was the only one to wear a maillot as opposed to a bikini during the Miss Universe contest in 2001.

26. The ‘Ankara’ material is not indigenous to Nigeria. Our indigenous textiles include the Akwete, Ukara, Aso-Oke and Adire.

27. Aloma Mukhtar is the first female lawyer from the North and went on to become the first female Chief Justice of Nigeria.

28. The area known as Makoro town in Lagos was first a swamp, later sand-filled by the colonial government and served as the first bridge to the Island.

29. Esie Museum is Nigeria’s first museum, established in 1945. Once reputed to have the largest collection of soapstone images in the world.

30. Aminu Kano formed the Northern Teachers’ Association (NTA) in 1948, the first successful regional organization in the history of the North.

31. George Goldie, who played a major role in founding Nigeria, placed a curse on anyone who attempts to write his biography.

32. In 1996, John Ogbu, a Nigerian Anthropologist firmly advocated for the use of African-American Vernacular to teach in the U.S

33. Hause Language indigenous to Northern Nigeria is spoken in 11 African States. Germany, French, U.S., and British International radio stations broadcast in Hausa.

34. The surgeon who ‘killed’ Stella Obasanjo was sentenced to 1 year in prison, disqualified for 3 years and fined €120,000.

35. The word ‘asiri’ means ‘secret’ in Hausa, Yoruba, Nupe and Igarra. It also means ‘gossip’ in Igbo.

36. Igbo-Ora in Oyo State, Kodinji in India and Candido Godoi in Brazil are the towns that produce the highest number of twin births in the world.

37. Bishop Ajayi Crowther, a Yoruba, in 1857 produced a reading book for the Igbo Language and a full grammar and vocabulary of NUPE in 1864.

38. The first TV broadcast in Nigeria and Tropical Africa was on October 31, 1959.

39. In 1978, a 50Kobo increase (from #1.50 to #2) in the cost of University Students’ meal per day caused the ‘Ali Must Go’ protests.

40. Albert E. Kitson discovered coal in Enugu in 1909. This discovery led to the building of Port-Harcourt town in 1912.

41. Today, only Nigeria has a larger black population than Brazil. More than 3.5 million Africans were captured, enslaved and transported to Brazil.

42. Groundnut pyramids were the invention of Alhaji Alhassan Dantata to stack bags before export.

43. In 1967, old traditional ruler, Oba Akran and A. Ademiluyi were jailed for 14 years (7 each) for stealing £504,750 (#2.5b).

44. Since 1960, Nigeria has been either ruled by an ex-lecturer/ex-teacher or military man. The only exceptions are Azikiwe and Shonekan.

45. If you visited Lagos in 1975, you could spend a day at the Presidential Suite of Federal Palace Hotel for #100, single room for #19.

46. The first aircraft to land in Nigeria landed in Kano in July 1925. A British fighter jet flew from Khartoum (present day Sudan).

47. In 1895, Koko of Nembe (now in Bayelsa) took 60 white men hostage. When the British refused his demands, more than 40 of those men were eaten.

48. The ‘Naira’ was coined by Chief Obafemi Awolowo when he was serving as the Federal Commissioner of Finance.

49. Koma Hill (settlement in Adamawa where people lived and practised the killing of twins) was discovered in 1986 by a NYSC corps member.

50. The pilot (Francis Osakwe) that flew Ojukwu away from Biafra (1970) was the same pilot that flew Gowon to Uganda (last flight as Head of State).

51. In 1986, Shehu Shagari was banned from participation in politics for life. The ban has still not been lifted.

52. As the wife of the deputy Head of State (Vice President of Nigeria) in 1984, Biodun Idiagbon personally ran a small ice cream shop in Ilorin..

53. Koma Hills (Adamawa State) inhabitants when discovered were observed to engage in the practise of borrowing wives among themselves.

54. Juju, Dashiki, Yam and Okra are words in the English dictionary that originated from ethnic groups located in present day Nigeria.

55. Nigeria has more English speakers than England, and more Muslims than Saudi Arabia, Syria and Afghanistan combined

No Christians

THERE ARE NO CHRISTIANS NOWADAYS!!!

“There are no Christians nowadays. None! We just have crooks, thieves, prostitutes, womanizers…no Christians,” John was saying to his three friends while enjoying a beer.

“You are very right. Christianity went with the apostles of old,” Andrew chipped in.

John, Andrew, Daniel discussed the subject at length but it was only Richard who had not commented on the issue the three colleagues were discussing and this prompted John to ask him why he was silent.

“I agree guys that today’s Christians are rotten,” he said and sipped his beer, “But I know of one Christian and she is my wife. Oh this woman is the real Christian.”
His three friends went into gaffes of laughter
“You are joking, man. Which Christian woman would allow his husband to go boozing?” Andrew asked amid laughs.
“I know it doesn’t make sense,” Richard said, “But my wife is a Christian. She lets me live my life. She doesn’t talk to me about anything biblical. She doesn’t curse me. She respects me as her husband and always asks for permission when going to church, to use the car and lot of things. She keeps washing my clothes. She has never thrown away any beer in the fridge because she is a Christian. She has never refused me sex because I am drunk. That woman is a Christian.”
His friends stopped laughing.
“You really mean this?” Daniel asked, “I think she claims she is Christian because you haven’t really tested her faith. She is pretending.”
“No. No. No. She doesn’t pretend. She just lives the life of a Christian,” Richard defended.
“What if we really test her faith? To see if she is the real deal?” Andrew dead-panned.

“I would not to treat my wife that way. She is a good woman. She respects me and I wouldn’t go that extra mile,” Rich said adding: “Right now I am ashamed to even bring beer into the fridge again.”
“I know you are lying to us,” John said laughing mockingly.
“Okay guys we can test her,” Richard agreed in resignation. “But I can assure you we will not break her.”

The tests began. From entering the house with his friends with soiled shoes, to eating food with relish meant for the whole day, to drinking beer at the living room and leaving it very messy but Richard's wife never complained. She never showed a sad face. She was always glad.

In her heart she always sang the song “MUST JESUS BEAR THE CROSS ALONE AND ALL THE WORLD GO FREE”
This Saturday, Richard came with his friends at 11:30 PM. Though his wife was asleep, he woke her up and demanded that she cook nsima for his three friends too. His wife never complained. She did that and when she was done she told her
husband and his friends to go and eat.
But Richard took the plates and threw them down shouting the food was undercooked( not well-cooked) and she had to cook again. His wife came to him graciously and kneeled down and said: “I am sorry honey. I never meant to embarrass you in the presence of your friends. I am sorry the food was under-cooked. I will prepare you another meal.”
It was Andrew who started crying. Then Daniel and John joined him. They threw themselves to the floor crying, their hands raised in the air in surrender. Richard, her husband also came apart uncontrollably.

“I want to serve the God you serve. Take me to Him,” John said tears flowing freely down his cheeks. Andrew said the same thing and did the rest. They accepted CHRIST that day. They
became born again.

This story teaches us that sometimes God places us in situations deliberately so that we can win souls to HIM. Are you experiencing a bad situation? There is a reason why God has allowed you to go through that.

If you like the story, please Share it to others to be inspired. Be Blessed.

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Yahweh

                           THE AWESOMENESS OF GOD ALMIGHTY

So do not worry, saying, “What shall we eat?” or “What shall we drink?” or “What shall we wear?” For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows

That you need them. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own (Matt. 6:31-34).

Jesus said that we should not worry about our everyday needs such as food, drink, and clothing. I believe this principle extends to all the concerns we have in life, including our relationships and finding that “special someone.” Our first priority as believers is to seek the Kingdom and righteousness of God. If we do that, He will see to it that we receive all those other things. The key is to fix our attention on God’s will, God’s Word, and God’s glory, and trust Him for the rest. Seeking the Kingdom and righteousness of God is like walking down a road toward a particular destination, keeping our eyes focused on the goal ahead of us.

As long as we stay on the road before us, we grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord and in His righteousness, which means knowing how to live, act, and relate correctly in life. This knowledge comes through God’s Word and from spending time in His presence. Along the way, various paths and alleys branch off from the road on either side. In those alleys stand people or objects that try to get our attention. They represent distractions, things that are not necessarily bad in and of them, but can cause us to take our eyes off of the Lord. Consider a young man who is making his way down the road, diligently pursuing the Kingdom of God.

All of a sudden, in one of the alleyways, he sees a very attractive young woman. Stopping dead in his tracks, he says to him, “Wow, she’s really cute! I’m going to check her out!” and then saunters over to make her acquaintance. Two things have just happened.

First, his eyes, which, a moment before, were filled with images of God’s Kingdom, are now filled with the image of the young lady.

Second, as he waiting and dating moves toward her, he will at some point step off the path because she is not on the road with him, and because he is not watching where he is going. It’s like learning to ride a bicycle. Unless you keep your eyes straight ahead, the bicycle will not go straight; it will swerve to the left or right and throw you off balance. Once the young man lets his eyes wander to the alley, he will veer off the path, losing sight of God in the process. If he is not careful, before he knows it, he will end up somewhere he never intended to go.

Anytime we start seeking people, we will be led by people. This is the dynamic of balance that God wants us to see. Once we become preoccupied with someone, or with seeking a particular person, we run the risk of losing God’s direction.

If we step off the road to the Kingdom, whatever path we take will lead us backward so that whenever we do eventually make it back to the road, we will likely be bruised and bleeding and farther away from our goal than when we began. Someone may object, “But if I don’t go looking, I’m going to end up walking this whole road by myself.” That’s not how the dynamics work in the Kingdom of God. Matthew 6:33 says that if we seek first God’s Kingdom and righteousness, then “all these things will be given” to us. The King James Version says, “All these things shall be added unto you” (emphasis added). The Greek word for “added” is the same root word from which we get our word “magnetize.” This means that, as we go along our way seeking the Kingdom of God, all these other things that we are concerned about will be added—drawn to us like a magnet. We won’t have to go looking for them. Whenever we follow God’s principles, we receive God’s provision and enjoy God’s promises